Perfection is an illusion created by the negative ego. First of all, what we think of as perfection is indefinable. When we do something really well, the negative ego tells us it’s still not good enough. So it serves to keep us separated from our joy, our heartsong, our connection to Source. Perfection can keep us stagnant, because if we can’t do it perfectly, why do it at all?
We are here on this planet to learn, to experience, to move forward, to grow, and expand (for more on that, come to my Spiritual Cosmology talk on 8/24). If perfection were reachable, once we got there, we would stop growing and learning and our existence would be pointless. That’s actually part of why it’s a moving bar; and our negative ego uses that to great advantage.
Why not make a decision to see ourselves as a perfect Cell in the Body Divine, exactly as we are, in each moment? Because we are. That is not to say we shouldn’t strive to grow. And we can still accept ourselves, as we are, without judgment (discernment is different). Because, really, until I accept what is, I can’t change anything, because I’m trying to change illusion. So change tactics. What is the gift in what you don’t like about yourself? Can it be turned into a strength? And whatever you are seeing as failure is nothing more than a learning opportunity to take you where you need to go. Every person who has ever accomplished great things has had failures along the way. And a lack of perfection is not failure.
Should you strive to be the best person you can be? Yes! Should you put forth your best effort at all times? Certainly! Should you constantly be trying to improve yourself? Naturally! But remember that your best will vary from day to day and even minute to minute. Remember that part of your task here on the planet is to make mistakes because those help you grow. And, above all, remember and honor your limitations, and don’t beat yourself up for having them; they, too, are a learning tool.
This post is part of a new series called Monday Message, based on that day’s reflection from 365 Days to Enlightenment (authorized versions are currently out of print, working on a new edition). Check back next Monday for another one! You can also sign up for the Daily Message on my mailing list if you’d like to receive a new reflection every day. I also often post them to Instagram, if that’s a medium you enjoy.