As we approach the autumnal thinning of the veil, the Universe asks us to take stock, to get rid of the old, and to reinvent ourselves if necessary. If we don’t do it consciously, the Universe may handle the details, which is not usually preferable. Sometimes, of course, regardless of how consciously we work our process, the Universe will hit the reset button for us anyway.
At the end of September, two people in my life left the planet, my husband’s aunt and a student. I distinctly had the thought “they come in threes.” I came home early from work a week ago, smelling death (one of my less pleasurable 6th sense skills is picking up things via odor). As I turned into my street, my cell phone rang; it was my brother, so I answered. Our father had passed during the night.
Reset.
He was 90; he had lived a good long life and accomplished many things. His health was failing; this was not in any way unexpected. He passed in his sleep; a blessing. He had just had a visit from his ex-girlfriend of many years, so he was ready to go. He had started asking for help, which was a big deal for him, and we were going to talk to him that weekend about going into assisted living, something he never wanted to do. So he opted out. He’d been done for a while.
It’s a huge reset for me, regardless of all of this. As well it should be – we’re supposed to feel the passing of our parents deeply. I’ve stopped caring about what people think. Maybe that will come back, but I hope not. I feel myself settling more strongly into my core values, and I’m more willing to let other things slide away. I sit more quietly, letting time pass, no longer needing to busy myself. We’ll see how this shakes out.
Take some time this month to really evaluate what your priorities are. Is money a priority, or are people? Is quantity a priority, or is quality? Is activity a priority, or is stillness? And then do something about it. Change things to be more in line with your values. Stop compromising yourself. As always, this is an instruction that is simply but not easy. But you’ll be better for it.